Why avoid keeping it?
A clock that's stuck can unconsciously block your own progress in grieving. It becomes a constant reminder of the precise moment of loss, freezing the emotion instead of allowing it to flow. It's more soothing to reset it… or to let it go gently.
Medications and medical devices
When illness was part of the end of life, there are often boxes of medication, a blood pressure monitor, bandages, a pill organizer… We sometimes keep them “just in case” or because we don't dare throw them away.
Why get rid of them?
These objects carry the memory of suffering and fragility. They are strongly linked to a difficult period and can continue to weigh on the atmosphere of a home without us even realizing it. Disposing of them carefully (at a pharmacy, for example) also lightens the emotional climate of the house.
Sheets, pillowcases, or very intimate clothing
Keeping a scarf, a sweater, a notebook… why not? But sleeping in the sheets the person used or wearing their underwear (even washed) is something else entirely.
Why avoid these items?
They retain a very physical imprint of the deceased. For some people, this may seem comforting… but for others, it creates an attachment that is difficult to overcome. If these objects rekindle sadness or cause restless sleep, it may be a sign that it's time to part with them.
Biological remains: hair, teeth, nails
In the past, people sometimes kept a lock of hair in a locket, or a baby tooth as a childhood memento. But in the context of mourning, these items can take on a completely different significance.
Why might this be disturbing?
These physical “remains” are symbolically very powerful. They can maintain too close a connection with the deceased, which can sometimes make the emotional separation more difficult. Not to mention the potential discomfort for other family members.
So, what can we keep?
The good news is that some objects become true pillars of remembrance. A favorite book, a smiling photograph, a handwritten letter… All these objects that bring you comfort, that evoke sweet and bright memories, are precious. They warm the heart instead of leaving it cold.
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